Learning Plan 9 Blog Post

I can use my skills of proofreading, collaborating, and inspiration to help my group complete the assigned project.

One item I would propose for our Code of Conduct would be that we must check in every day with the discussion group to contribute towards the discussion and/or assignment.

My Conflict Rankings:

1.   Accommodate

2.   Avoidance

3.   Collaborate

Conflict Style	Avoidance	Accommodate	Competition	Compromise	Collaborate
Item Scores - INSERT your number from above next to the question number in the grid below and add up your scores.	1 4 6 5 11 4 16 4	2 4 7 4 12  5 17  4	3 1 8 3 13 2 18 3	4 3 9 5 14 2 19 2	5 3 10 4 15 3 20 3
Total Scores	17	17	9	12	13

4.   Compromise

5.   Competition

Interpersonal Communications Post

"It's not what you say, but -how- you say it."

Most people know the adage, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all’. Many times, I prefer to keep this in mind during destructive conflicts, because things can be said that can’t be taken back. Usually in this scenario, there is a lot of accommodation, where I simply choose to not expend any more energy on the conflict.  I prefer to engage in constructive conflicts, where the end results in an understanding or an agreement for how to tackle the problem if it comes back again in the future.

Most of the time, the destructive conflicts usually fizzle, and the issue springs up again and again, under a different guise. Money, time management, stress; all of these are factors that can spark a destructive conflict, and I am not one to really be approached in these things. I am non-confrontational.

As I mentioned before, things can be said that cannot be taken back. In one instance, when I decided to speak up, I did so in a way that was more venting that addressing, and it cost me a relationship. It took a long time to mend things, and we are stronger for it today. However, there are times that I wish I’d just been quiet during the fight, especially since the issue was something absolutely ridiculous. 

 Things probably would have gone better if I had just taken a step back and addressed the issue, instead of placing blame.  I feel that’s the way a lot of disagreements get blown out of proportion as well. 

Non-Verbal Communication:What you can see

This week in class, we are talking about non-verbal communication, and the focus of this blog post is about non-verbal communication in advertising. The image below stood out to me for more than just the 'non-photoshopped' girl in her underwear.

Image from: < http://petapixel.com/2014/01/21/lingerie-campaign-aimed-young-girls-takes-stand-retouching/ >

While the main idea for this advertisement is ‘natural you is sexy’, there are other undertones to the entire campaign: what is actually attractive is what is in the picture. This demographic is aimed at teenage girls, in hopes that the ideals of more natural bodies will improve self-esteem. However, this campaign is showing that you must still be somewhat thin, fair(er) skinned, and have what society believes to be ‘beautiful’ in order to be beautiful.

I believe that the happy, simple poses the models take are also trying to help with the appeal of higher self-esteem, but there is no real sense of self here, except in the color of the underwear. There is a total lack of jewelry, the makeup is soft and natural with the photographic lighting, and the underwear isn’t enough to make a fully bold statement of ‘this is it!’, with the exception of the girls, in their natural bodies, laughing and smiling. This tells me that Aeri is trying to sell underwear under the guise of positivity, and while it’s nice to know that the girls haven’t been photoshopped (their claim), it’s still not the exact body type of the girls we see in school.